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Anonymous said: I'm cis, and I stand for the rights of every human being no matter what. However, I was told that because I'm cis, my efforts to help doesn't matter and that I can't stand for someone's basic human rights just because I don't understand what they are going through. But that's exactly why I want to help others and spread awareness. I guess you could say I'm naive for wanting everyone to be kind to everyone, but it's only fair to share happiness with the world right?
"However, I was told that because I’m cis, my efforts to help doesn’t matter," it depends on where you are putting your efforts and how you are making your efforts known! For instance, I am white. I want to help the poc community, but, because I am white I have to be mindful to never talk over a poc, never interject or dismiss a poc, and to alway be aware of my privilege. I am to listen and learn. The best way you can learn to help a community that is not your own and or is one that your community has oppressed is to let that community itself tell you how you can help them or if you can’t, as in, if they mistrust you or do not want your help—that is their decision.
Taking this into account, you as a cis person, belong to a community that has consistently and continually oppressed mine. It is no wonder that some trans and non cis people would be wary to have you help them. However, if your efforts are truely in the best intrest of my community and you do not talk over actual trans people in any way, do your best to educate yourself and ask questions (understanding though that we are not google), then you can help in ways. Such ways include calling out other people’s transphobia and transmisogyny, using people’s pronouns when they tell you to, paying attention to what the trans community is lobbying for and seeing if you can use your cis privielge to help us, thinks like that, do you understand? c:
"I don’t understand what they are going through." The person who said this was making a very important critque, because as a cis person you will not know what it means to be trans, therefore you should not intervene or speak over the trans community.
"I guess you could say I’m naive for wanting everyone to be kind to everyone, but it’s only fair to share happiness with the world right?" That is idealistic and in a way it worries me. Do you want to be kind to everyone, truely? Even the rapists, the racists, the murderers, the transmisogynists, the homphobic, biphobic, aphobic, panphobic? All of them?
I like this answer to that anon.
pro tip: it’s not just cicadas who can burrow out of the ground and scream for their whole lives and then die